That's NOT What I Meant

We seem to have all sorts of problems when someone doesn't understand what we said. There is no lack of places (work/home) where this occurs. The amount of books on communication is in the millions. Seems like the problem of being understood is almost like talking to someone from another country and they don't understand your words. It is one of the top two causes of divorce. Communication is best defined as:
A two way process of reaching mutual understanding in which participants not only exchange information, news, ideas and feelings but also create and share meaning.
Mutual understanding and share meaning. Easy to say but sometimes hard to do.